Healing has become a buzz word of sorts. Don’t get me wrong, I am on my own journey of healing. It is important and vital work we need to do within ourselves if we want to break out of dysfunction and find peace, joy and balance in our lives. We as individual people and as a society have A LOT of healing we all need to do. It has become a negative buzz word in the sense that more and more people are blaming their behaviors, often toxic or rude, on their healing process.
Folks, healing is a vital process! It’s scary and it can be messy. However, it is not like the get out of jail free card in Monopoly. Your internal healing should not be causing negative or traumatic experiences for others. Demanding kindness and tolerance from others for your abusive and ignorant behavior is not okay.
Eeyore is held up as the poster child of folks that are going through hard times. He is depressed and constantly down and constantly surrounded by his friends. They include him in everything they do and expect him to just be himself. He doesn’t need to put on a happy face, so to speak, to be included. And this is a wonderful example of how we should be engaging with each other!
So we tell our people to accept that we are the Eeyore among them and that they need to let us feel what we feel. This is a great perspective and I agree with this 100%. However (again with the howevers!), Eeyore feels what he feels and expresses himself WITHOUT abusing those around him. He does not go out and about throwing what boils down to adult tantrums and then tell his friends to just deal with it because he is going through a lot right now.
You be you. Do what you need to do to heal. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. The struggles of life are real and overwhelming and require processing. Healing will be some of the most important work you will ever do. Lean on your tribe because we all need a village. But be kind to others always as you expect them to be kind to you. They are all healing too.
May blessings and laughter by yours!
XOXO till next time,
Poppy
DASHING EXPECTATIONS 